Monday, October 20, 2008

Motherhood and frumpiness (is that a word?)...


I have been noticing as we move that I have let myself fall into a major slump with my clothes. DH got me some nice things in Egypt, but most of them are not daily wear kinda stuff. And when I stand at my closet putting away what clothes I do wear on a daily basis... I am appalled at the depth of this frumpy oblivion I have fallen into.

So what I am wondering is, does motherhood make you frumpy? Have you noticed have women look good before kids, then there is a rough patch in their 30's and then they look fabulous again in their 40's??? The only conclusion I can come to is that it follows the having kids timeline. When I had "the" kid I was 24. I am now 34 with 4 kids and I look rough. I remember all the cute dresses I had when I was pregnant with my first two children... Now I don't even have any regular clothes that are that nice. So, I can see where by my 40's my kids will be older and I will be able to get myself back to normal again. But right now I am a mess.

So tell me dear readers... Does motherhood lead to letting your appearance go?

9 comments:

Surviving said...

At this point I just try to be comfortable. I don't really wear anything nice either. What is the point when I have people wiping and spilling things on me all the time. This way I don't have to worry as much about stuff getting ruined.

Mona said...

It's hard. You are expected to do so much, get everyone taken care of and take care of the house and look good? There's no energy nor time to take care of ourselves and most of us put ourselves last.

Christine said...

LOL! Love the post. In short... YES!!

kennethandportia said...

I love your post. I had my daughter at a later age, 30, and I have found that I have become MORE conscious about how I dress. I want to look nice because she has such cute things. Maybe it's b/c she's a girl or b/c I was older. I did go thru a slump when we were first married and running a business. We plan on having more kids, so maybe when it's 2 or 3 of them I'll fall into a fashion slump again.

jessyz said...

I went through the worst slump ever. My daughter is only 8 months and I went from career woman to stay at home mom and just stopped caring. Until my husband asked why I didn't wear anything nice at home and that I should even if just for him. I guess he was right even if I wear hijab outside I should look like a hot mama inside for him. So what if the nice clothes get dirty they can always get washed.

umelbanat said...

Is there a stronger word tghan FRUMPY...then that's the word to describe me....lol....
I don't know if things get better as you near 40....but I did notice that I start to think more about the way I look as the kids get older & as they become more independent....

Anonymous said...

i agree with you that having kids make you feel bad to wear cloths that will get dirty after 2 minutes of wearing them. i remember one time i had guests so i keep calling them till i knew that they are about to reach so i ran to wear my pants (to make sure that they'd see me clean),BUT this didn't prevent me of buying new billy dancing dresses to wear for dh (of course u knew I'm egyptian wife)

Amie said...

I'm just pregnant with our first and I feel like frump incarnate. I have approximately one outfit that fits properly and currently no cash to replenish the closet. I do my make-up every day just so I don't look like a walking corpse. I'm not lying - I look BAD.

lifeAgift said...

Motherhood doesn't make you frumpy. MARRIAGE DOES!