Friday, June 03, 2005

Raising Equality

There is a really great post on Ethnically Incorrect about how Muslims are raising their girls vs. how we are raising our boys. Deer and Wolves. Check it out, well worth the read.

For me this is an important issue. I think we are giving our boys especially the wrong message. We are letting the girls shoulder the responsibility of sexuality as teenagers (as in they are the ones who are obligated to avoid pre-marital sex) and then later letting them be the keepers of marriage by giving them the responsibility of pleasing their husbands.

How about instead of teaching our boys to be tough and our girls to be nice, we teach all our children to be pious, thoughtful, honest, loving and responsible individuals. The rest will take care of itself. Trust me if you give your children the love for the deen, and teach them to be caring they will be fine in their lives and their marriages.

Besides, if I remember my Islamic history correctly Khadijah had her own business and the Prophet (sws) was reported to have been helpful with household chores. So where did we start with all this other stuff anyway? It has to be culture, because we are all equal in the eyes of Allah (swt).


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Surviving said...

I think you make a good point here. I don't have any daughters, however I plan on teaching my boys to be good men that help their wives. They will learn to cook, clean, do laundry, etc.

Surviving said...

I want my boys to be understand and appreciate others, men and woman. It won't be easy but I think my husband is starting to see that these things are important. When talking about how things are here in Yemen, he has commented about it not being right.

UmmLayla said...

It is hard when you are surrounded by a culture that doesn't teach the values you are trying to instill in your children. "You must be what you want your children to become" is a favorite quote of mine, and I think it goes to the core of the issue. Basically, there are things in non-Muslim cultures that I am trying to avoid, and there are things in Muslim cultures that I am trying to avoid... Insha'Allah our children will get the best of both worlds, but that will only happen if we set a strong example.

Umm Isa said...

Barakallahu fiki ya ukhti for this post. It's so true and so important to raise our children correctly according to our deen mashaAllah. And that we use the Prophet as an example on every aspect of our lives, not only when it comes ot eating with the right hand, how to pray etc.. but also in how we deal with other people. how we deal with our families (like helping out in the home regardless if you're a boy or a girl). Fi ammanillah wasalaamu aleikum (L)