The thoughts of an American Muslim and mother of four raising her children in small town USA with her Egyptian husband.
Friday, March 21, 2008
I want you all to watch this weeks Ask Baba Ali video. I think it brings up an important point. A VERY important point. We have all seen this in the masjid, we all know on some level what he is talking about. It's up to us to stop it. OK, so watch it them come read the next piece of this post.
How many times have you been that person complaining? How many times have you been the person with the clipboard? I've been both. Lately I've been the complainer more often, to be honest. And I am thinking that the next time there is something that needs to be done I will just do it, insha'Allah. And I have been thinking a lot about the things that have happened to me in the masjid and thinking that I reacted in the wrong way.
You see I have had some bad experiences with the masjid as far as talking about me, making me feel uncomfortable, saying things to the congregation that were obviously addresses to me... And all I have ever done is complain about it. Not very productive really. I shouldve gone to the people who were doing these things and told them my concerns to their face. Because you see, that is the difference between voicing a legitimate concern and complaining. No one that I have told my stories to can help me with my problem, and I think may have been guilty of using this whining as a way of dealing with my problems. Now, if I had just gone and talked to the people involved I'm sure they would've denied any wrongdoing... But I would have made them think twice before ever doing it again to me or anyone else.
So, here's to picking up a paintbrush instead of running your mouth off. I know I'm going to do my best to implement this idea, insha'Allah.
I am a mother to four wonderful kids and the wife to one wonderful Egyptian! We live in a small town in the Midwest and work in our small businesses. I am also a Waldorf preschool teacher and childcare provider, a backyard chicken lady, a part time homeschooler, and a generally crunchy mama (think hijabi in birks).