Thursday, April 17, 2008

I should know better...


I am potty training my almost 2yo right now and all I have to say is that I have amnesia. Every time I embark on this potty training thing I forget what a mess/pain it is for me. I don't have stories about children who just stopped wetting themselves one day... Or came to me asking to be potty trained. No.

My first child did well at about 23 months and then promptly went back to diapers when my second was born about a month later.

My second didn't train until he was a little over 3yo...

My third trained at about 2 1/2 and drove me nuts by pooping in the corner of the playroom rather than his potty.

So why would the fourth be any different? I should know better than to think that she would be. I should be experienced enough to know that experience has nothing to do with these matters. And of course I don't even want to get into the whole competitive parenting thing where you get into using these events as measures of your skill as a mother. No, I will not go there.

But here I am potty training the baby. UGH. It is never a nice process. No one likes cleaning pee off the floor... No one likes prying a writhing toddler out of a messy pair of underwear... No one want to memorise the location of the restroom every time they enter a public building. No one. But we do it, and we manage to come through with our sanity intact... Long enough to forget it all before the next child. Maybe that's a blessing. Maybe we would never have that second child if we remembered all these little trials on detail.

6 comments:

la-la po said...

Al salam alaikum-

One seems to be a bit young for potty-training. Do you usually start them when they're that age? I'm also married to an Egyptian and I just ignore the comments about them 'still using pampers'. I don't think it's limited to just Egyptians, it's a phenomenon all across the Arab world. Dh is pretty good about it though and doesn't pressure me much to train them when they're really young.

Mona said...

I know, Egyptians expect you to have them on the potty at 9 months, that's just training the mom to sit an infant on a potty all day! I know it's a relief to get them out of diapers finally but it goes so much easier when they are a bit older and can get it more. Best of luck to you my dear, it is such a dirty job but someone's gotta do it. (us)

UmmLayla said...

lalapo,
DD is going to be 2 soon, and I go by the signs of readiness more than the age. I am training her because she stays dry all night and she promptly undresses crying poopy after a BM!LOL I know what you are saying though... It goes to the whole competitive parenting thing...

Mona,
Mom's get all the fun jobs huh? Well at least it's over in a couple of weeks;) I do think she's ready. Time will tell.

Aeryn said...

Salaams,

My daughter is almost three, and we are in the process of potty training. We have been in the process for awhile now. But I have been in and out of the hospital this winter, and so that has slowed the process a bit. I refused to try to potty train her, when she was already stressed as to her mother being absent. So here we are, and I am fine with it. Although we have received several of the "she is STILL in daipers?!" remarks. I just try to ignore them.

Insha'Allah, this process will be as "painless" as possible for the both of you :-)

Aeryn

Hijabi Apprentice said...

as an first time mom to be: this post scares me. i gotta say i'm not looking forward to potty training :(.

Miss Muslimah said...

My son is almost 15 months..gulp...I cant imagine all the work potty training is going to be..he is a handful!
When do you know when they're ready?